In this short article, we share with you the 3 key steps that, when consistently applied, can support personal transformation and self-empowerment. By changing our personality, i.e. how we think, how we act, and how we feel, we change our personal reality. Intentionally changing our personal reality through conscious wisdom and discernment means that we experience ourselves, events, situations, relationships, and others in a more empowered and loving way than we have in the past. In this new reality, there’s more space for joy, playfulness, creativity, light, love, and inner peace in every moment of life.
- Change the program
The first key step to personal transformation and self-empowerment is to achieve clarity over what you truly want and why, and to then remain conscious and connected to your intention as often as possible throughout the day.
It’s not enough for us to know what we want to experience and why with clarity in order to have success. Creating a process that allows us to practice cultivating that future experience is key to us remaining conscious, aware, and connected to it throughout the day.
In order to stay connected to your intentions and not to go back into a program (i.e. the past) as the day goes by, here are 3 things you can start doing that will keep you intentional and positively focused on the feelings and emotions that will support you in achieving your most important intentions and goals.
1.1. Connect to your intentions
First thing in the morning, when you first wake up, before you start getting involved in anything else that reminds you of the past and who you are as your old personality, ask yourself these questions: ‘What’s the greatest ideal of myself that I can be today?’ Who do I want to be? How do I want to feel? What do I want to do? …
Keep asking yourself the first question and any other questions that derive from this question until you feel the answer in your body as feeling-sensations and elevated states of emotion that connect you emotionally to who you want to be.
At first, it might feel challenging to sit quietly and wait for the answer to these questions. That’s completely normal. The usual program that runs the body will want you to do what it’s habituated to do so that the body can feel safe and in control all of the time.
Change feels uncomfortable at first as we break through the habit of being ourselves, doing the same things, connecting to the same emotions, and taking the neural pathways in our brain through the same thinking-feeling loop.
Over time, it does get easier. Some days, it can feel harder than others, depending upon what’s happening in your environment and the unresolved emotions in your body that get triggered as a result.
When you begin this process, you’re essentially retraining your brain and your body to a new way, a new you, and you’re doing it before your environment has changed, which can feel challenging or even unsafe at times. If nothing seems to have changed externally, why would you change the way you feel about it?
The more you invest in your vision of your future and your future self and spend time actualizing it in the present moment, the easier it will become to let go of the old self and habits, and for something new (new thoughts, feelings, choices, behaviors, and emotions) to naturally emerge.
1.2. Become aware of your subconscious programming and clear it
Once you’re as clear as you can be and positively focused on your intentions in the present moment, it’s also important to identify all of the conscious and subconscious programming that might be going against your intentions and the greatest ideal you have of yourself.
Without making a conscious effort to identify what makes up the old program, it’s unlikely that you’ll have success in becoming the new you and thus experiencing a new reality.
Our subconscious programming is so much stronger than our conscious intentions. It makes up 95% of when, where, how, and why we think what we think, we make the decisions we make, we behave the way we do, and we feel the way we feel and on and on the cycle goes.
If we can’t go against our programming and its momentum, we can certainly change it.
Changing it involves becoming aware of anything that is not in alignment with what we want (i.e. our intentions and goals and our greatest ideal of ourselves). This includes:
1.2.1. The thoughts we think that don’t support our intentions and our greatest ideal of ourselves and the inner voice in our head that tells us that we can’t, or that we don’t deserve, and keeps replaying beliefs that keep reaffirming perceived limitations and a world of impossibilities. If you write those down, you will now have a greater awareness of them. You can then apply a process to clear and release those limiting thoughts and beliefs so that they are no longer part of your consciousness and they stop defining your reality.
1.2.2. In the same way, pay attention to the words that you use throughout the day to communicate and express your experience of reality. To understand more about this process, you can visit our article on the power of words and language. Think about words that don’t belong in your vocabulary anymore and start closely selecting the language you use and that will help you feel empowered to achieve your intentions. Use language that reflects your greatest ideal of yourself, the new you.
1.2.3. Watch your behavior and how you act, even how you walk and feel in your body when you interact with the world. Do you act like the greatest ideal of yourself? Or does your subconscious programming keep you complaining, blaming, making excuses for your behavior, or feeling like a victim in your life? If like most people you’ve been conditioned into this programming, change it by becoming aware of what’s driving these behaviors and mindset and releasing the emotions, memories, and interpretations that keep them in place.
1.2.4. Finally, become aware of your baseline emotional state. Are you mostly happy and content? Or do you often feel shame, guilt, anger, or sadness? These emotional states are also part of our programming. They derive from our perspectives and interpretations of self, others, and life. If left unquestioned or unreconciled, they make up our experience of reality. It’s possible to transcend all of these emotions and the way they color our reality so that we can experience more elevated states of emotion and thus experience a new reality that reflects our greatest ideal of ourselves. So, work on clearing those old disempowering emotions the moment they come up and replacing them with elevated states of emotion that support your intentions and goals.
1.3. Cultivate new thoughts and emotions and liberate creative energy
In addition to clearing and releasing the old thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and emotions that keep you repeating the past, it’s important to cultivate new thoughts, behaviors, and emotions that support your intentions and your greatest ideal of yourself. This is essentially the process of reprogramming your mind by creating new neural pathways in your brain. You can’t think differently if you don’t change the way your brain functions. The more you revisit those new neural pathways, the more they are reinforced, and with them all of the new thoughts, behaviors, choices, and emotions that are associated with them.
1.3.1. What thoughts do you cultivate that support your intentions and your greatest ideal of yourself? Keep cultivating these new thoughts over and over again until they naturally arise in your mind without you forcing the process in any way.
1.3.2. How do you choose to express yourself? What words do you choose to describe yourself, others, and your experience of life that match your greatest ideal of yourself?
1.3.3. What behaviors do you demonstrate in this greatest ideal of yourself? How do you move? How does your body feel? What new choices do you make that help break the habit of being yourself and support stepping into a new reality and a new you?
1.3.4. How do you feel? Start teaching your body emotionally what your future and your future self are going to feel like when they’re manifest and feel these emotions as deeply as you can, and continue with this process until you feel like the new you.
As you keep practicing these new thoughts, words, behaviors, choices, and emotions, something new will emerge. Pay attention to the new things that start flowing into your life. Invite them, embrace them, and connect the dots between what you’re doing differently and the way your environment and external reality begin to change. Notice the new doors that open, opportunities, new relationships, synchronicity, and all of the new things that enter your life to reflect back to you how you have changed and how you now feel about yourself as this new you.
- Practice Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most elevated states of emotion that allows for miracles to flow into our realm of experience. The more we cultivate it, the more we notice the small and big miracles in our lives.
Being grateful means having already received. And when we cultivate a state of gratitude, our hearts open and, in this state of openness, we begin to receive all of the things we previously believed that we were separate from.
At first it can feel challenging to feel grateful when our external environment and reality don’t seem to have changed. In those moments, remember that your reality is defined by your perspectives and interpretations, and that by changing your perspectives, your reality will change.
If you can become grateful for the things that you can’t yet see in your realm of experience in the same way that you would if they were here now, you will begin to receive these things and much more. Gratitude means you are whole, and we don’t need anything when we are whole. Therefore anything that we receive once we’re whole is simply a gift.
Start slowly, focusing on the things in your life that you already feel grateful for so that you can connect to the energy of gratitude with the least amount of resistance or reactivity, and teach your body what it feels like to be grateful.
When you’re in a state of true gratitude, every thought and intention that you have in this state can anchor into the body and be experienced at a deeper level than just your conscious mind (i.e. as a thought.) It can literally be integrated as an experience rather than just an idea, or a mental construct that won’t make it into the body as a feeling-sensation that we can repeat and connect to mindlessly.
If you practice gratitude everyday right before falling asleep, you are teaching your body that everything is ok, and opening yourself up to receiving more and more.
The more you feel grateful with all of your heart, the more powerful the results. As your heart continues to open in this state of gratitude, you are accessing a field of consciousness that is beyond your personality and opening yourself up to receiving all of the experiences in the quantum field that match the energy signature of the signal your heart is emitting when in a state of gratitude.
I have personally seen many miracles happen when people practiced being grateful ahead of the event or relationship they were envisioning and hoping for.
You can practice being grateful for becoming the greatest ideal of yourself and being guided to learn how to become your future self before your reality has changed, and watch with awe and wonder what happens next.
- Bring your brain in higher states of coherence and consciousness
Practicing spatial awareness can help you accelerate towards your intentions and becoming the greatest ideal of yourself.
When you practice spatial awareness, you’re not so connected to local space and time reality and therefore your personality, you’re more detached and simply aware of space within you and all around you.
When you disconnect from your local self, and your old personality, it becomes easier to tune into a new personality and to access the quantum field of possibilities where you can become anyone, anything, anywhere, and anytime you choose.
You are no longer bound to 3-D reality and thus you have more capacity to create from infinite potentials rather than working within the limitations of your old personality.
It’s easier to see new things when you are not your old personality and to get answers to problems and challenges that your old self couldn’t see a solution to.
As Einstein said, ‘you can’t solve a problem using the same thinking that created them’. The solution is elsewhere. It’s in the quantum field, and the only thing you ‘have to’ do is to connect to it and to disconnect from your perceived problems and your old self.
Through spatial awareness and dis-identification with the old self, i.e. the ego, your brain becomes more coherent and synchronized, with all the various centers working together towards the same intention at the same time instead of being pulled in many different directions and experiencing chaos as a result of opposing thoughts.
The more you cultivate spatial awareness and step outside of the old self, the more relaxed and creative you will feel and become.
We hope that you’ve enjoyed this short article and that it gives you a clearer map to experiencing more of what you want in life more of the time.
(This article pulls from the teachings of Quantum Physics, Neuroscience, Epigenetics, the extensive work and research of Dr Joe Dispenza, spiritual guidance from John Jones and other spiritual teachers and masters, and our own process of coaching and life.)