Thank you to both of you from the bottom of my heart!! I couldn't believe when I got off the phone, how much time you'd spent with me. I could go on and on about how much different this was than counseling for me. You have changed my life and therefore my family's life, forever!
Thank you so much. You told me I had the power to make these changes and that if I started hitting the ping pong ball differently I could get change. I must say you were right. Thanks to you, things have changed! I was praying to God for help like this and I truly believe you two are the answers to my prayers. God Bless you for the amazing you work do.
I wanted to thank Dexter and Alessandrina for a breakthrough session that was honestly insightful beyond expectations. My husband and I are looking forward to this healing journey more than ever… We are so grateful to have found this site.
Thank you Dexter and Alessandrina Dorer for being so much help in this…My heart now feels happier and I feel able to move forward and learn how to release my own fears and be a better person for me and my husband. We are starting to communicate more. Starting to laugh more and be a couple again. It is possible. Just listen to what these two amazing people have to teach you and try. It’ll happen when you’re ready for it to.
You always provide divinely inspired, Godly and amazing advice Alessandrina Dorer. It comes every time I’m at my whit’s end… I’m beginning to get refocused and exhaling, again. Thank you, master and friend.
Last Friday, I had the opportunity to speak on the phone with Alessandrina for a one-on-one coaching session. My husband and I are days away from the 1 year anniversary of his affair revelation and that has stirred up a LOT of fears within me and also painful triggers. Alessandrina listened to my concerns and fears and gave me some very interesting insight on our situation I had not been able to see before. Not only that, but she genuinely seemed to care. Before speaking to her, I was consumed with fear, pain, and feelings of immense sadness. After our discussion and also after me trying out some techniques she suggested, I am doing MUCH MUCH Better and am more prepared than I was before to walk through these upcoming days with a more positive outlook and with less fear. Thank you Alessandrina Dorer for being such a wonderful coach, helping me to defeat my fear, and for being a friend who truly cares.
Thank you Alessandrina for your and Dexter’s help. You guys are amazing, and you have already enriched my life in ways I can’t put into words. Thank you for ‘holding my hand’!
As most of you friends here know, last year was pretty challenging to my health, with impaired mobility, then major surgery, and then a long and often painful recovery and rehab process. I felt very supported throughout the struggle, and I thank all of you who cheered me on along the way! One person who has been so very supportive is my dear friend and healing coach Alessandrina. Her expert guidance has led me through some pretty dark places, into the light.
Thank you so much. I hope all who hear can grow from the wisdom brought about in this call. It really was ordained by God Himself from my perspective, for my personal growth here on Earth.
I had an incredible session today with Dexter Dorer and Alessandrina Dorer. I felt pressure, disappointments, and the despair I’d been experiencing leave me as I explained my circumstances in my marriage. These two individuals are gifted. Their 1 on 1 technique is genuine. Today was totally unlike anything I’ve encountered and I’m encouraged! I sincerely look forward to putting the advice and suggestions given to me today to use. Thank you both and God blessings to you continually in the work you share to help me and others resolve their marital issues!
I would recommend scheduling a 1-1 coaching session with Alessandrina Dorer or Dexter Dorer. I learned more from them during our 15 minute phone call than anything I’ve read or any advice I’ve been given in the last 6 months. Good luck to you
Thank you so much for taking time to help me in my marriage. What you all are doing is extraordinary and a Gift from God.
These people have invested a lot of their time, and energy to find the things that actually are proven to work in the challenges of our generation; Cutting edge therapy. Thank you Alessandrina Dorer and Dexter Dorer and all the people who are behind the scene for your hearts to help. We appreciate it!
This group has absolutely changed my life! I’ve been implementing the information into my relationship, especially the parts on codependency. I just noticed another incident today where I could apply this awareness. So often, I fall right into the ‘pit of doom’ when my husband is upset with me or blaming me. He needs my help, not my ‘gasoline to the fire’. Thank you again to everyone here for the support!! Dexter Dorer and Alessandrina Dorer you rock!!!!!
If you really want to remain in the relationship, I highly encourage you to get involved with Dexter and Alessandrina on here. Make time for one of the sessions being offered. They will challenge you so much and bring you to a place where you can see things for what they are, including the revealing of the part that you may be playing in this all and the root causes for why you both are doing what you are doing. You will see how freeing the unveiling (the session) can be and will want to grow more. There is hope for your relationship and it can be whatever you want it to be I guarantee.”
Every time I read or watch something you two, Dexter Dorer and Alessandrina Dorer are trying to help us all with, it makes more and more sense. I’m truly so happy that you accepted me into this group. I will apply this to rebuilding my marriage and finding happiness in myself and my marriage again. I will be more aware of my parts and whether or not they apply to these life goals.
Why participate in life coaching with us?
To answer that question, say this out loud and really let yourself feel it…
- I now have clarity about what I want and how to get there.
- I now have a deep understanding of my relationships, why they are the way are, and how to make them better.
- I can see clearly now why I have the thoughts and emotions I have.
- I now have the ability to let my negative thoughts and emotions go permanently by understanding and releasing them.
- I’m now free from old negative thoughts and emotions.
- I feel a deep sense of purpose and meaning about my life.
- I know who I am and what I’m doing here.
As a result...
- I now have an amazing relationship with my partner.
- I now have rewarding relationships with others.
- I now have an enriching family life.
- I now have great success in my personal and/or professional life.
- I now feel healthy and energized.
- I now have an abundance of all things including rewarding personal goals, financial prosperity, fulfillment, and creativity.
- I feel a sense of awe, gratitude, and wonder about how incredibly rich my life has become.
- I have a clear vision of my future.
- I now wake up relaxed, joyful, and happy to get out of bed in the morning.
- I feel grounded and connected to my spiritual nature.
How did it go?
Did any part of you feel out of alignment because they felt they didn’t have those things? Have you been trying to achieve these things and want to make more progress?
Our life coaching clients all have this motivation in common. That’s why they work with us. We help them implement approaches like self-awareness, mindfulness, self-healing, self-empowerment, self-sovereignty, equanimity, unconditional love, and spirituality in their lives to achieve their goals - whatever their goals may be.
Let's take a moment to talk more about these approaches and how they are helping our clients achieve their goals. If you prefer to get started towards your goals now, schedule a time talk to us. We offer a free 20 minute consultation.
What are approaches like self-awareness, mindfulness, self-healing, self-empowerment, self-sovereignty, equanimity, unconditional love and spirituality?
And how can they help me achieve my goals...?
Whenever you use a path, it’s important that it’s clearly defined. If not, you might get lost along the way! Fortunately, although it might not always feel this way, we all have many paths available to us, and luckily some paths are shorter and more enjoyable than others. Navigating via these paths can lead to great experiences and a fulfilling life.
Some key paths that we use in our own lives and with clients are...
Seeing the implications, meaning, and cause and effect nature of our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual processes (conscious and subconscious) including our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and fears.
Focusing on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's thoughts, emotions, feelings, prior decisions, current life circumstances, and any judgments, fears, beliefs, or expectations in regards to those.
Permanently resolving recurring negative thoughts, emotions, and habits while understanding and releasing unresolved pain, trauma, and recorded limitations such as fears and beliefs from the past.
Realizing that nobody can "make" us feel anything, releasing all codependency, and becoming the central, decision making authority in our lives based on our own personal intentions and goals beyond the influence of family, friends, or society so that we can find true personal happiness.
Reaching an internal state of constant, eternal, and unconditional love, inner-peace, acceptance, and gratitude regardless of the actions of others and external events beyond our control.
Feeling and expressing a wise, healing, understanding, God-aligned, and self-less love with all beings and things (including ourselves) without any fear, judgment, expectation, exception, or limitation.
Remaining open-minded, open-hearted, grateful and self-less in your process of learning without self-judgment or expectation, without pride or ego, and constantly giving all credit and thanks to God.
Deconstructing the ego by releasing any and all fears, beliefs, expectations, and judgments while becoming more deeply in touch with our oneness with God and all beings via a greater connection to our eternal soul and spirit.
Releasing our internal limitations including our disempowering perspectives and realizing our tremendous capacity to achieve our goals via the application of our own freewill and self-sustaining motivation.
By utilizing these paths, we can attain wisdom that we can keep forever while achieving our goals faster and more enjoyably than ever.
What goals can be achieved using these methods?
Some key goals you can achieve are...
What you choose to achieve is up to you...
Do you feel like the methods you've been trying haven't been working? Do you know why?
We hear this a lot. Clients come to us after having tried affirmations, positive thinking, redirecting, reframing, NLP, belief creation, yoga, meditation, exercise, and more. More often than not, these people have tried hard. Simultaneously, they are punishing themselves for supposedly not having tried hard enough.
What we find is that it's not a matter of effort. It's a matter of how that effort is applied and having the information to understand how to best apply it. Usually, our clients come to us having tried many techniques that have ultimately been suppressing, distracting, or avoiding the real issue! That's because lots of techniques out there teach you to do exactly that!
This doesn't work! If you have a pot of soil with some plants already growing in it (old negative thoughts and emotions) and you want to plant new ones (new positive thoughts and emotions), you need to take the old ones out first. If not, the old ones will consume the new seedlings. It becomes very difficult to use affirmations, positive thinking, and constructive energy on top of a foundation that still has unresolved unwanted tendencies like fear, hesitation, distrust, negative beliefs, and more.
The key is learning how to remove those old negative tendencies (the old plants) on your own so that you and your energy system are like a clean, beautiful garden. When you do that, you'll find that you don't even need to push yourself to think positively or use affirmations - they just come naturally. That's because all the parts that used to see the glass half-empty and create all those negative thoughts and emotions are no longer there! This can be the difference between a bumpy ride and a smooth one, a stressful one and peaceful one, a strenuous one and an enjoyable one.
Unfortunately, we've all been conditioned into using these different strategies to avoid actually understanding what's going on inside of us subconsciously. The irony is that the negative thoughts, emotions, results, and difficult personal, professional, and relationship situations we get into are actually just the final ripple effects of the invisible influence of our unaware and even child-like subconscious parts. By becoming aware of these subconscious parts and understanding them, instead of suppressing them, we can release them permanently and get great results rapidly in our lives.
Does this sound familiar - Do you ever feel like you're fighting our own energy 'trying' to control yourself into thinking and doing the 'right' things and not thinking and doing the 'wrong' things? Do you ever perceive yourselves to not have done well enough? Do you ever feel like, in your process, you're in a tug of war against yourself? Do you ever feel guilt, anxiety, loneliness, low self-esteem, low body image, negative thoughts, or stress? Do you go through cycles where you try really hard, get tired, and go back to old habits for a while only to repeat that cycle again?
Trying to control ourselves out of unwanted situations and behaviors leads to misunderstandings, conflict, negative emotion, unmet expectations, disappointment, judgment, punishment, fear, anger, and even hatred. Sometimes, it takes us years of hitting our heads against the wall trying to control to realize that it doesn’t work.
Believe it or not, that painful experience is helpful. Once we reach that point of enough pain, we finally look within and question our ingrained perspectives. When we question those perspectives by reinterpreting ourselves, others, and our past, we open the door to new experiences of life that yield new and better results.
Have you reached this point of enough pain? Are you in a place in your life where you want to empower yourself through new perspectives that will bring more love, inner-peace, conscious relationships, and meaning into your life? Have you come full-circle in understanding that trying to control yourself won't work and understanding yourself will?
Are you wanting to invest in yourself and improve your experience of life in meaningful ways? If so, schedule a session with us. We offer a free 20 minute consultation.
Have you asked yourself WHEN AM I?
That’s right, we said when. You can time travel. You don’t even need a time machine! You have one that’s actually projecting its own version of reality all the time.
It’s your mind. The reality it projects affects our emotions, thoughts, feelings, decisions, perspectives and well-being. Is it time for a reality check or what?
When are you?
When were you before getting on your phone or computer to look at this? When were you when you went to bed last night? When were you when you last showered? Were you thinking about your childhood? Were you thinking about next month? Were you thinking about what happened yesterday and what might happen tomorrow? If so, then you probably missed out on how nice it is to have a warm, soft bed to sleep in. Or, how amazing it feels to have a hot shower and cleanse your body.
Have you noticed any patterns about when you are? Do you frequently go back or forward to a certain time? Is there an event that keeps coming up? Is there a future scenario you’re trying to guarantee or absolutely avoid? How much time per day do you actually spend in the now?
You may want to read this carefully: Time traveling (thinking about the past or future) is exhausting. It distracts us from wisely navigating the present moment. Therefore, it has a negative effect on all the results in our lives. Those negative results, in turn, negatively impact our emotions and thoughts, which then pulls us out of the present even more leading to more negative results and so on and so forth. Do you see this vicious cycle?
Have you reached a point of understanding in your life where you want to experience life in the present? Do you realize the benefits of positive personal change enough that you’re looking for 1-1 help with this process?
Then you're going to love what we're going to share next - a key reason why so many people struggle to be present!
Have you been trying to be more present?
Does it feel like you have to keep reminding yourself to be present and let go of things like stress, anxiety, negative emotion, or painful thoughts and memories? Are you constantly redirecting?
Unfortunately, positive affirmations and refocusing are not enough to bring one into a permanently present state. Understanding why requires understanding why we struggle to be present in the first place. When you understand this, you’ll be able to make much faster progress towards being more present and therefore achieving your goals.
So here's part of the why: Our minds and our bodies are like a big recording device. We have been habituated to record experiences and store them in our memories. Kind of like hoarding. There’s a reason why we do that - we can talk about that some other time.
The important thing to realize is that when we store memories of painful past experiences, we then carry them around with us from moment to moment. As we carry them, subconsciously, they stay in a “waiting for the shoe to drop” mode. Meaning - our mind, which makes maybe billions of associations per second, is constantly scanning our environment for anything that looks like our memories.
Unfortunately, this process leads to us reliving painful past events in the present, or projecting that painful past events will occur in the future. What’s even more unfortunate is that this entire process actually increases the chances of those unwanted events happening in our lives.
The key to being more present is finding these subconscious recordings that continuously get triggered and pull us out of the present. Once we find them, we can unravel them to discover why we recorded them in the first place and any misinterpretations we made that are keeping them stuck on a loop.
This understanding helps us to release the fear attached to the event. When this fear is released, the thoughts and emotions that were being triggered and pulling us out of the present disappear.
One at a time (and often more efficiently), we can start healing the recordings that we have that pull us out of the present. When you do this, it becomes easier and easier to simply be present naturally. All of a sudden, it’s not a game of tug of war with ourselves where we’re constantly redirecting and suppressing, it’s just our natural state of being.
A state of stillness, love, learning, and peace...
If you want more of that in your life, you might be interested in working with us. We offer a free 20 minute consultation.
In addition to everything described above...
What else do I get from private coaching with Dexter and Alessandrina?
Pay as you go
This is the most flexible option. You can speak with us for as little or as long as you want, and we'll simply bill you after the call at our $2.50/minute rate.
Price: Depends on call duration
8 Hour Pack
With this option you can buy 8 hours of coaching time at a 17% discount and choose when and how long your sessions are.
16 Hour Pack
With this option you can buy 16 hours of coaching time at a 33% discount and choose when and how long your sessions are.
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