Conflict Management
- Make a list of all conflicts that have occurred between you and your partner
- Recall each conflict exactly as it unfolded
- For each conflict, remember the pain that you felt and identify the pain your partner felt
- Identify the individual fears that were driving the pain in you and in your partner
- Why is it important for you to understand the fears that are getting triggered in your partner? How can it help you navigate conflict better in the future?
- For each conflict, first forgive yourself and your partner for any pain you triggered and felt
- For each conflict, if you find resistance in your system to forgiveness, release the underlying fears creating this resistance to forgiveness
- For each conflict, release the fears that caused your pain and pain reactions with your partner
- What method can you use – on the go – when you feel triggered during a conversation or conflict with your partner in order to quickly release the feeling, thought, belief, or emotion until you get a chance to clear the triggered fear?