Forgiveness through Forgive & Forget
Ayurvedic Pressure Point Which Helps Us To Forgive and Forget:
Consciously managing our process of forgiving ourselves and others is vital if we wish to release ourselves from our past relationship entanglements, negative feelings towards ourselves, limiting life interpretations and negative emotions.
Many people have a difficult time forgiving themselves or others for perceived mistakes, actions, choices and interactions.
This is in large part due to the extreme negative emotional charge associated with those events.
Other reasons for not wanting to forgive are that we fear that if we forgive it will in some undefined way make us vulnerable to being hurt again.
Therefore they tend to unnecessarily hold grudges and negative stances in relationships, sometimes for years or a lifetime, assuming that it will in some way benefit them to do so or in some way keep them safe.
It is useful to have a specific method by which one can effectively release these negative emotions, which hold us in the past and taint our perceptions of the now and the future, as well as our vision of ourselves and others.
Below is a process, which was originally taught to one of my main guides who got it from a very gifted Ayurvedic healer. He added further information which he learned over the years and we have integrated this practice into our system of healing and helping people transcend negative dynamics in their relationships and life.
We have seen this method do a great deal of good in people’s lives, if it is practiced with discipline and focus. You will get out of the process what you put into it.
This process fosters forgiveness, lingering resentment, stress reduction, relationship management (emptying the relationship bucket) and reduces the intensity of negative emotional reactions to specific life or social situations.
It also works on conscious and subconscious energies, as well as also affecting karmic energies (past recordings of pain and trauma that continue to play themselves out) in a positive way.
In addition, it is applicable to any daily negative emotional reaction we have to any situation or interpersonal interaction as a tactical stress management tool.
In order to get the most out of this process, it’s useful to first make a list of the issues, situations, judgments, criticisms, complaints, anger and hatred, negative feelings and negative relationships that we want to positively influence.
Then using the numbered process steps below, item by item, work through the list slowly and carefully.
When you reach the end of the list of topics, then start back at the beginning and re-read each item on the list. As you do so, feel within yourself how you feel about each item now.
Notice if you feel less negative emotion associated with the item after you ‘ve worked on it the first time.
Notice any negative feelings that may be left over in regard to the item and if some remain, re-apply the process steps listed below. If there are no emotional reactions or attachments to the item you are working on, check it off your list and move to the next item.
1.Choose the item you from your list you want to work on and focus fully on the negative emotion associated with it as you go through this process
2.Lightly place the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth.
3.Close your eyes to help you focus only on the negative emotions you are feeling
4.Apply pressure to the pressure point on the back of your left hand, located in the webbing between your thumb and index finger, using only the tip of your right index finger.
5.Begin to take in a slow deep breath through your nose, and as you take in the breath say to yourself the following statement.
“I completely and totally forgive ……. for …….. “
- “I completely and totally forgive myself for all of my failures”
- “I completely and totally forgive my father for not accepting me”
- “I completely and totally forgive my spouse for not meeting my expectations”
- Then slowly exhale through your mouth, keeping your tongue on the roof of your mouth during your exhalation.
- When you have reached the end of your exhalation, release the pressure of your right finger tip on the back of your left hand and then immediately reapply it to the same point on the back of your left hand.
- Repeat steps 5 through 8 listed above six times more time, meaning that for each topic on your list you want to perform a cycle of at least 7 breaths and you want to state your intention to forgive seven times.
Apply this process to as many topics from your list as you feel comfortable with in a single sitting.
As you go through the seven breath cycles on each item you are likely to feel the energy of the release increase, breath by breath, this is normal and beneficial.
When you feel you are at your limit for processing items in any one sitting (some people have a very long list of items) put your list away until the next day and then begin on the next topic.
I suggest scheduling time each day specifically for this forgiveness work, if you have the time, so that you make consistent progress. Again you get out what you put in…
Going back in time and resolving every conflict and painful situations through this technique will bring about accelerated growth and progress in your personal life and all your relationships.
While using this technique, become aware of your inner resistance to forgiving and letting go. Repeat the technique with the same items on your list if you find that you have thoughts, negative emotions, and conflicts around this item.
Also, be aware of any resistance to forgiving and the fears that it brings up and work on the fears that are being triggered at a later time or at the same time if you have extra time when working on forgiveness.