I’m ok, You’re ok: It’s ok to feel whatever you feel
You are not your thoughts, feelings, or emotions. You are simply experiencing them. In this article, we’ll discuss how to optimally work through your thoughts, feelings, and emotions in order to achieve a state of inner peace, joy, happiness, love, fulfillment, optimal goal attainment, greater alignment, and enhance your relationships and life.
It’s ok for you to feel whatever you feel
It’s ok for you to feel angry. It’s ok for you to feel sad. It’s ok for you to feel resentful. It’s ok for you to feel fear. It’s ok for you to feel whatever you feel. In the same way, it’s ok for your partner, your children, your parents, your relatives, your friends, and anybody else, for that matter, to also feel what they feel, whatever that may be. How could it be any other way? You are feeling it. They are feeling it. If it wasn’t ok for us to feel what we feel, this would be invalidating and denying ‘what is’, i.e. what is happening in our mind and emotions. And how useful would that be? If we’re feeling it, it must be ok. It’s always ok.
Who decides if it’s ok for you to feel whatever you feel, or not?
So, who says it’s not ok? Who dictates what you should and shouldn’t think, feel, emote? Think deeply on that. Are your thoughts, feelings, and emotions your own, or have you inherited them through habitual conditioning? is the collective consciousness, your parents, friends, family, anyone and everyone who would want us to feel differently than we do actually influencing you in this process of censorship? Often times, without even realizing that this is happening… The subconscious influences – that we are all subject to – are mostly unknown to us. It is those conscious and subconscious influences and expectations that have us feeling like it’s not ok for us to think, feel, and emote what we feel, or that it’s not ok for others to do the same. This influence mostly comes as a result of our fear of abandonment, including the fear of emotional abandonment (as in when someone says and feels that it’s not ok for us to think and feel what we feel), that we all have at both conscious and subconscious levels of our system. We all want to be loved and accepted. We have unknowingly come to believe that in order to be loved and accepted, we must somehow fulfill the expectations of others, and our own self-expectations, and that if we don’t, we will be rejected and abandoned by them. This creates a lot of pressure on us, and our capacity to consciously, wisely, and discerningly choose our actions and behaviors. This include our thoughts, feelings, and emotions, which we look at and dissect through the lens of others’ expectations of us, or self expectations inherited from the collective consciousness.
Attempting to control your thoughts, feelings, and emotions keeps them unresolved, and thus coming back
No matter the amount of external pressure that’s applied, we can’t force ourselves into feeling differently than we do. Attempting to control your thoughts, feelings, and emotions by saying it’s not ok for you to feel whatever you feel does not help you resolve the thoughts, feelings, and emotions. It only makes it more difficult for you to understand them, and creates a disconnect from the source that’s creating them. This is the #1 reason why we stay stuck in negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions in the first place. There is no such thing as real control, just the attempt and illusion of control, which never achieves the ultimate goal, which is to resolve the underlying emotions stored in the subconscious mind that are creating the disruptive thoughts, feelings, and emotions. So, when you resonate with the collective consciousness, your self-expectations, and other people’s expectations of what is ok or not ok for you to think, feel, and emote, you are actively repressing and suppressing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, often without knowing that it’s happening or the implications of doing so.
What you repress or suppress accumulates at subconscious levels and leads to more emotional pain and imbalances
What you repress or suppress must be expressed somehow, some way, somewhere down the line, and in a much more forceful and unbalanced way than if it had been harmoniously processed and transcended upfront. When you repress or suppress your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, not only have just denied yourself the opportunity to resolve them at the root, you’ve added to the complex web of unresolved thoughts, feelings, and emotions, that will need to be understood and reconciled, if you want to heal and release the accumulated unresolved emotional pain from your subconscious mind. Why leave to later what you can do today? And why add up to your emotional pain when you can resolve it right here and now? In order to achieve this goal of resolving your emotional pain and being happy, it’s essential to be ok with all of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that happen to express themselves through you. How can you understand yourself and your emotional process, and resolve it, if you simply – and unconsciously – shut it down? You can’t.
All negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions are symptoms of unresolved emotional pain in your subconscious mind
Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are just symptoms. They are a fragmented reflection of the content of your subconscious mind, and what’s being triggered in it. They are not bad, wrong, or false. They can’t be. They are your guidance system in the resolution of your emotional pain, and therefore of your pain in relationships and life. How great is that? You have your own inner regulating system to tell you what you haven’t yet been able to heal and release. It’s always ok for you to feel anything and everything that you feel. You are feeling it, it must be ok. The more you embrace this perspective, and feel safe doing so, the more progress you’ll make in resolving your emotional pain and clearing your subconscious mind from its unwanted painful content.
Just because you feel it doesn’t make it true
Just because you feel it though, doesn’t make it true, real, or justifies you acting upon it without understanding its deeper nature – especially as it relates to your own unresolved personal pain. What it does mean, is that you are reacting to something that’s being projected by you – in your mind’s eye – about a situation, dynamics, or relationship that you are in. It is your perspective – conscious or subconscious -that you’re clinging to that’s feeding those feelings. Therefore, it is not right or wrong. It’s simply a perspective, and an interpretation of an experience that you’re making based on your own prior recordings, interpretations, and conditioning. So if your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are simply the result of what’s being played out – and replayed from the past – in your subconscious mind, and if the content of your subconscious mind is purely subjective, then it can’t be true. And if it’s not true, then it can be questioned. This is especially useful if none of the thoughts, feelings, or emotions that you’re experiencing are ultimately supportive of you achieving your intentions and goals in your relationships and life.
Release all judgment and censorship of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions
When you release your self judgment, and the judgments that others have of you, in relation to what you think and how you feel, you are now free to explore your thoughts, feelings, and emotions without censorship. Without the pressure of censorship and the rejection it implies, you now have a way forward to unentangle yourself from them, a way that you don’t have when you resonate with the idea that it’s not ok for you to think and feel what you feel, and thus suppress your personal freedom of expression. Judging, punishing, hating, or any other attempt at controlling your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions will only add to the pressure that you feel, and distract you away from achieving your deepest intentions and goals in your relationships and life. You may have heard the expression, ‘you can’t get there from here.’ Well, you truly can’t quiet your mind, be at peace wth yourself and others, and experience unconditional love and joy on a consistent basis through repression, suppression, or distraction from thoughts, feelings, and emotions that you, or others, have labeled as not ok.
You are not your thoughts, feelings, and emotions
Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and allowing them to come up, doesn’t mean reacting from them. Remember that, just because you feel it, it doesn’t make it true, or real. It simply means that you’re reacting to something that’s being projected by your subconscious mind. You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings. You are not your emotions. They are simply flowing through you. Often times, we become identified with our thoughts, feelings, and emotions, instead of realizing that they are only a reflection of ego parts of ourselves that are not fully conscious, and that we may not be fully aware of. They are not us. We are not them. Our thoughts, feelings, and emotions are simply a result of what we have interpreted, recorded, and stored in our subconscious mind. Now, that’s a great thing. This means that instead of suppressing and repressing them, and adding more to the content of your subconscious mind, you have the opportunity – when you work at that level – to dissolve and release the entire content of your subconscious mind permanently. It also means that you have the capacity to stop storing panful memories and unresolved emotional pain there, if you choose to. The less there is crowding your subconscious mind, the more open and receptive you are to experiencing what is without reacting to your own pain.
By working at the root to dissolve all negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions, you will accelerate towards your intentions and goals
For that to happen, it has to be ok for you to think, feel, and emote what you feel. Your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are never wrong, invalid, or bad. They are what they are, and they can be worked with at the root so that you can dissolve the ones that are not serving you – i.e. the ones that are limiting you and preventing you from achieving your deepest intentions and goals in your relationships and life. Your life matters. Your happiness matters. Your fulfillment in life matters. You deserve more love, more joy, more happiness, more inner peace, and fulfillment. It’s up to you to create this reality for yourself by releasing the blockages to it. We’re here to help you with this process. If you’re looking to free yourself from negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and don’t want to control and thus suppress them, then check out our articles, videos, and courses here: More