Energetically speaking only (not medically), few people realize that you can make great progress on the effects of ADD and ADHD on your own using the power of your consciousness and intention. In this article, we’ll explore how you or someone you love can become empowered to use their consciousness and intention to reduce the effects of these and other conditions in their lives. This article is written so that anyone can understand and in a degree of detail that is brief but comprehensive enough to optimally helpful.
I personally was diagnosed with ADD by three different doctors in my teenage years. I’ve also worked and helped many clients with ADD and ADHD. In my experience, it’s very possible to reduce the effects of these conditions on your life dramatically. I’ve experienced significant reductions myself. This can bring great benefit to your performance at school or work, your relationships, your inner-peace, your stress and anxiety, and your total well-being.
Here are some examples of just a few of the different ways I’ve seen ADD and ADHD affect people. I’ll start with some examples of my own keeping in mind that ADD and ADHD manifest differently in different people:
- In the past, I’ve walked out of important exams in frustration because, while I knew the material, I couldn’t finish the exam on time due to difficulty focusing. I would have to re-read each question 4 to 10 times before I could even start giving the question my full attention.
- In conversations, I might not realize someone was talking to me until they were already halfway through what they were saying. When I realized I wasn’t listening, I might end up distracted by the fact that I wasn’t listening, and then unable to focus on the second half of what they were saying.
- Other times, while listening to someone speak, something they said might remind me of something else and, before I knew it, I was thinking about that thing instead of listening to them – this made interviewing quite difficult.
- While climbing a tree, I once became distracted at the wrong time, forgot where I was or what I was doing, and fell 12 feet onto my back.
People with ADD and ADHD report a rather consistent undercurrent of anxiety. They also report a very spontaneous, creative, and sometimes hard to control mental, emotional, and energetic landscape – meaning they can have lots of different thoughts, feelings, and emotions running at the same time accompanied by an often uncomfortable and ungrounded surge of energy. At the end of the day, they might feel mentally and emotionally exhausted, even though their mind just keeps pumping relevant and irrelevant thoughts that are sometimes unpleasant.
ADD and ADHD can take a toll on relationships. People in relationships with people with ADD and ADHD will sometimes project that the person with ADD or ADHD doesn’t care enough to pay attention to them. This can often add up over time and lead to conflict. Additionally, ADD and ADHD can make it difficult to follow instructions at work or school, participate in group discussion and brain-storming, pay attention to lectures, or sit down and read. When these symptoms are strong, it can be a severe learning disability and can lead to someone feeling ostracized from the groups and relationships that they’re a part of.
So how can someone use their consciousness and intention to reduce or resolve these unwanted results? I have personally found that within each and everyone of us there is great power and potential to positively and consciously change any internal aspects of ourselves that we want.
With consistent observation, self-awareness, understanding, information, and intention we can resolve many different personal situations or conditions that we may have felt powerless over in the past. That’s because almost all the situations that manifest in our lives tend to have a subconscious, emotional root cause that they stem from such as a single fear or belief or group of fears and beliefs that are running in our system but that we haven’t identified or been able to release fully, yet. Once we release these, the negative symptoms (that we often label as ADD or ADHD) of these subconscious, emotional root causes can go away immediately, completely, and permanently. By the way, (energetically, not medically speaking) this is the case for many other situations including OCD, insomnia, depression, obesity, emotional eating, difficulty with weight-loss, panic attacks, relationship issues, stress and anxiety, memory-loss, and more (you can find a more comprehensive list of these here).
First, let me say that everyone is different, and you should always consult your doctor about such matters and that by no means am I saying you should stop taking any medication. Western medicine has made wonderful advances that have helped us in many ways. I personally have taken several medications for ADD and ADHD. They certainly helped me focus. I also found that taking this medication came at a big cost for me.
On these medications, I found myself pushed up into my mind. The gaps of thought that used to be filled with distracting thoughts were no longer there. Instead, it felt like my mind was on overdrive filling every gap of time and space in my mind with a sort of cold, intense, constant, drilling attention. Mind you, this wasn’t a warm, calm, aware, peaceful, and quiet attention. Even so, it did increase my focus. If I took these pills consistently, I could maintain that state.
By far the biggest effect this medication had was that I became more mentalized in my life. This was in my teenage years. Today, as a life coach and healer, I can’t stress enough how important it is to feel our emotions, be in our body, and not get lost in our heads if we ultimately want lasting happiness, permanent resolution of and progress on our internal states of being, and good relationships.
We already live in a very mentalized world. People are in their heads a lot. This ‘mentalization’ creates a sort of distance between us and our emotions, and it can cause our processing of information to become more dry and sterile. The result is that our emotional process can become suppressed, ignored, compartmentalized, and overlooked.
In certain situations, like programming, or test taking, this can be very useful. In terms of finding consistent happiness, fulfillment, well-being, having a life with harmonious relationships, and making wise, compassionate choices that take into consideration the emotional implications of our decisions on ourselves and others – being ‘over-mentalized’ can be quite a limitation.
Ultimately, I stopped taking the medication for these reasons, and, most of all, because I realized I was distancing myself from exactly the thing I needed to understand (my emotions where the subconscious, emotional root cause existed) in order to fully transcend the ADD and ADHD on my own in an empowered way – without having to rely on taking medication for the rest of my life. Ironically, the medication for the condition, by driving me further into my mind, took me farther away from where I needed to be in order to resolve it completely on my own.
I am fortunate to say that I have transcended almost all of the negative effects of ADD and ADHD and I’ve helped others do the same with ADD and other situations like OCD, intrusive thoughts, suicidal thoughts and more. I know it works, I’ve felt and seen it work.
It’s really amazing what we can achieve on our own once we learn how to see and work with our own unwanted conscious and subconscious mental and emotional processes that unnecessarily and painfully define our lives. Often times, we accidentally assume that these mental and emotional processes define us and “are us”.
I’ve found that they really aren’t. I’ve found that they are like a sweater that we’re wearing. We can take off this sweater. Who we really are is underneath this sweater. That said, when we look in the mirror, we see this sweater. When other people see us, they see the sweater. As a result, we can end up believing that this sweater is “who we are” and it can become a part of our self-image and our social-image. This process of identifying with our mental and emotional processes creates a significant barrier to transcending them. You can see this pronounced in family dynamics where there is a long line of individuals with a certain disorder, like ADD or ADHD. Believe it or not, children can often end up “living up to” these dynamics as they copy the thought and emotional processes of their parents until those processes become an ingrained and conditioned part in the children.
Genetics is also a significant factor. That said, in my personal experience, we have a lot more power to transcend these genetic factors than we might feel we have. We need not live feeling limited by our genetic conditions and limited to just medication to improve ourselves and our lives. There is a lot you can do on your own to curb the effects of negative situations in your life and these efforts can be very meaningful, fulfilling, rewarding, self-awareness-producing, wisdom-producing, freeing, and empowering.
To conclude this article, I will briefly touch on a few common, generic examples of subconscious, emotional root causes of ADD and ADHD that I’ve encountered while helping others so you can get an idea of how this method works. When implementing this into your life, it’s vital to be precise, to make no assumptions, and to tailor the process completely to you. The examples are simply meant to give you better insight and understanding into how subconscious emotions and beliefs can be the root cause of symptoms of ADD.
Sometimes, people have ADD or ADHD that is worse in certain situations. For example, test-taking, interviewing, or at work. These people sometimes engage very well in other scenarios. For example, a child with ADD or ADHD can be laser-focused at playing a video game or playing a sport and can do so with good discipline and organization, while other activities like waiting in a waiting room or doing homework can seem impossible.
Similarly, an adult might experience a lot of ADD symptoms when it comes to speaking with a spouse, but can be laser focused and organized in a business meeting. [An important side-note: even in situations such as this, the ADD symptoms are never personal. Just because a spouse has difficulty focusing on the words of their partner, doesn’t mean they don’t love and care for them.]
When ADD is more intense in specific situations, there is almost always a deeper, subconscious part of us that is actually actively resisting paying attention or purposefully diverting attention elsewhere. This internal, subconscious part has the capacity to trigger distractions and to even suppress sensory input from being processed consciously by the brain. This can happen in a child doing homework or an adult having a conversation with their spouse, child, or business partner. These manifestations of ADD are situation specific. The resistance comes from a subconscious part that, for whatever reason, literally doesn’t want to be listening or paying attention to what is happening. These parts can be identified, understood, educated, and released and the ADD symptoms can go away. The difficulty paying attention can also come from persistence instead of resistance. Meaning, our subconscious part that gets triggered might feel the need to focus on something else other than the task at hand. This can create a sort of inner-conflict and tug of war scenario in our minds between 2 or more things that we are diverting our attention to and thus experiencing symptoms of ADD. One realization this example provides is that ADD and ADHD don’t happen to us, they happen in us.
The other aspect of ADD or ADHD that’s worthy of note is the kind that, instead of being situational, appears to affect someone nearly constantly and in all situations. When this is going on, we can sometimes actually have a belief, consciously and subconsciously, that says “I have ADD and I am a person with ADD.” This belief can shape our personality by becoming a subconscious way in which we relate to ourselves, other people, and the world. Another example of a subconscious emotional root cause of constant ADD could be subconscious beliefs, fears, and expectations about one’s capacity to listen or the fear of how their self-image and social-image might be affected based on their response or the result of whatever activity they’re doing. If one is holding themselves to very high standards in terms of their response in a conversation, performance in an interview or exam, and fearing the implications of some type of perceived failure, this can create serious mental and emotional internal conflict and distraction.
Truly, there are an infinite number of potential subconscious and emotional root causes of ADD symptoms. They are different for each and every person. In light of the increasing number of children and adults becoming addicted to ADD and ADHD medications, our society’s high-performance culture, and our highly competitive work and classroom environments, alternative methods of dealing with ADD are becoming ever more important. A meaningful, fulfilling, rewarding, self-awareness-producing, wisdom-producing, freeing, and empowering method that leads to greater self-sovereignty and emotional intelligence, in my humble opinion, is a jackpot in this day and age for young kids and older people alike. Best of all, with a little guidance and practice, people can learn to identify and release the subconscious, emotional root cause of their ADD and other situations in their lives on their own. Truly, the method we discussed in this article can be applied to MANY different issues and opportunities. If someone you know could benefit from this, please reach out to us.
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