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Release your fears and achieve your goals

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Fear is antithetical to happiness. In this article, we’ll explore how to release your fears so that you can achieve your goals and experience more love, joy, inner peace, happiness, and fulfillment on a consistent basis.

How fear prevents you from achieving your goals

Are you aware of the limitations that fear creates on your capacity to live a deeply fulfilling life?  Think about it for a moment, and imagine how much better your life would be if you had no fear.  No matter how conditioned to fear people around you are, or how fear has influenced you in the past, you can permanently free yourself from fear.   You don’t need fear to consciously navigate your life in the direction of your intentions and personal goals.  You never did, and you never will.  Would you like to learn how to permanently free yourself from fear?

Release your fears, and accelerate towards your goals

Without fear, you can say goodbye to all of your negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings for good.  Does that sound like something you’d like to achieve?  If so, READ on…

Maybe fear has been preventing you from making progress in your life and living a truly fulfilling life.  Maybe you’re tired of being stuck in the same negative thought pattern, detrimental emotional dynamics, and unsupportive relationships, etc.  Many of us have been conditioned to think, and even believe, that fear is inevitable or worst necessary to make good decisions in life.  As if fear could somehow give us some special power of understanding and analysis that would ensure that we stay safe no matter what.  Of course, it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Fear paralyzes you into inaction and negativity

Fear actually creates an invisible lens through which we look at life and begin to distort information that we receive from our environment.  Without this clear and objective information, it becomes extremely challenging for us to make wise, discerning, quality decisions that lead to optimum results in our relationships and lives.  Fear paralyzes us into inaction, misinterpretation, judgment, punishment, expectation, anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness, depression, control strategies, and limited beliefs that reduce our ability to effect constructive change and thus improve our quality of life and intentions.

Fear keeps you stuck in the same detrimental patterns and toxic relationships

Fear is what keeps us in unfulfilling jobs and relationships.  Fear is what keeps us stuck in the past judging ourselves for perceived mistakes that we’ve made, and that were really just a part of our personal process of growth.  Fear is what keeps us up at night, tossing and turning, letting our mind run wild into endless fear projections of all the ways in which things could go wrong.  Fear is the little voice in our head that keeps telling us that we’re not good enough, that the things that have happened in the past and that have brought us pain will happen again, that we’re not loved, that we’re not respected, and all the rest of the nonsense that our minds come up with…  Fear is what destroys our ability to know better than to hurt each other, or worst kill, when we feel unsafe.  Fear is what robs us of our capacity to love unconditionally, to accept one another as we are, to forgive, to make ourselves vulnerable to one another so that we can share deep physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual intimacy.  Fear is what brings us pain, over and over again, what keeps us stuck in the same arguments, conflicts, fights, and misunderstandings, with no possible way forward and out…  None of it makes any sense.

Fear breeds more pain, fear, and negativity

If you want something… why fear not having it?  If you have something… why fear losing it?  And if you don’t want something, why fear that it will happen?  Is any of this helping us achieve what we truly want in our relationships and life, or avoid the pain we don’t want to feel?  It can’t.  Fear breeds more pain, more fear, more misunderstandings, more conflicts, more negative thoughts, more negative emotions, more disconnect, and separation – both within ourselves and with the ones we love…

Fear is just in your mind: it’s not real!

And fear is not even REAL.  Fear is created by a mind – inside the mind – which replays its own movie, or the movies of others, in an attempt to achieve psychological safety…  We feel pain. We associate this pain to an external source. We record this pain, and the ‘culprit’ – the one who supposedly caused this pain – and we keep going back to that memory over and over again. Fear is the process of projecting the thoughts of those recorded memories of pain with the intention of avoiding the recurrence of pain.  Every time we do this, it hurts.  Every time we do this, we continue to feed the fire of our own suffering.

How we try to escape fear and create limitations on our freedom and happiness

So what do we do to fix it?  We try to mold the world around us through our beliefs and expectations in an attempt to not feel the pain…  Of course that doesn’t work because the world, life, and the people who live in it have their own set of beliefs and expectations that they’re operating from, and so we come into conflict with each other, life, and the world, over and over again.  Every time an experience presents itself to us, we compare it to all our recordings and fears… does it pass the test?  Are we safe?  Will this bring us pain?  If it does, we sigh in relief and feel good.  If it doesn’t, down the rabbit hole we go!  That’s no way of living life!

You don’t need fear to motivate you and achieve your goals

We don’t need to limit our lives in this way.  We don’t need to constantly replay our fears on the screen our minds in order to make sure that we won’t feel pain again.  We don’t need fear!!! Let this fact sink deep within your subconscious mind: FEAR IS NOT REAL… it’s all in our minds!  And yet it feels so real, you might say.  Still, that doesn’t make it real…  The reason why fear feels so real is simply because the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between an imagined reality and what is actually happening… and so the body reacts to any projection of the mind as if it was real.  It doesn’t know the difference between sensory stimuli created externally and that created by imagination.  That’s the power of imagination!  Now imagine what you can do with the power of your imagination once you stop wasting it on fear.  You can build the relationship and life that you want.  You and you partner can become co-creators of your relationships and lives.  Where’s the limit?  There is none, other than fear…  Do you really think you need to fear coming face to face with a bear for the rest of your life?  What’s the odds of that happening?  So low, that it’s statistically irrelevant.  And if you did come face to face with a bear, guess what, you would instinctively know what to do.  You don’t need fear to be wise, discerning, self aware, intelligent, loving, forgiving, accepting, kind, and all the qualities that allow you to navigate your relationship and life consciously and to get the results that you want!  You don’t need to fear ‘coming face to face with a bear’ your whole life and waste your energy, time, and efforts away from your intentions and goals!

How fear will attract to you what you don’t want

Think deeply about the implications of continuously fearing something that might never happen for the rest of your life.  Guess what… it might actually end up happening.  Call it the law of attraction or doom… your mind is a powerful tool.  Our fears have the capacity to create beliefs that tend to become reality because we react to life as if our beliefs were actually true, valid, and real, and thus we make interpretations and decisions from them.  You don’t need to create beliefs – born out of fears – that are going to derail you from achieving your goals in your relationships and life.

The emotion of fear distorts objective reality

Fear paralyses us into inaction.  Fear triggers us into a spiral of negativity that undermines the quality of our lives and results.  Fear is never real.  Fear is never true.  And fear is never useful.  When you’re in fear, you’re blinded by your emotions. You can’t see clearly.  Everything is ‘infected’ by the lens of fear through which we look at the world.  So if the bear you’re fearing is just a projection of your mind onto your imagination, what do you do about it?  How do you know it’s not real? How do you trust it’s not really happening.  And what do you do instead?

Freedom from fear is possible for everyone

You shift into a state of complete faith and surrender.  You pay attention to what is happening and to your own process of thought, belief, and fear.  You focus on your intentions and make choices based on those intentions, not your mental projections.  You stay in your heart, unconditionally loving yourself and your partner, no matter what’s going on.  You choose to release fears because they’re not real and they’re certainly not serving you.  You question all your beliefs about yourself, your partner, you relationship, and you release those too.  Living through beliefs is not living at all.  All strategies of control (beliefs, expectations, judgments) are ultimately a waste of your time and energy and reduce the quality of your life and intentions…  If you need someone to hold your hand, guide you, encourage you and show you the possibilities when you step out of fear, reach out to us.

Release your fears and achieve your goals

Releasing fear at the root is the essence of what we teach, and how we help individuals and couples ultimately resolve all their relationship problems and achieve their goals.  We’ve created an 8-week program, that will allow to release your fears, negative thoughts, emotions, feelings, and limiting beliefs, and propel you forward so that you can achieve your relationship and life goals.  You don’t have to live in fear for one moment more, you can be free and start truly living!  You can be free of your negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings and start living a life of purpose, joy, love, deep fulfillment, creativity and abundance.  That’s our hope and intentions for you.  Your life matters.  Your happiness matters.  Your fulfillment in life matters.

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