Expectations create unnecessary stress, disappointment, and anxiety in our relationships and life.  In this article, we’ll share how you can start releasing expectations of yourself and others, and enjoy your relationships and life more.

Releasing expectations means living a more joyful, loving, and fulfilling life

Having any kind of expectation in life is a disappointment waiting to happen.  Have you ever thought about what it would be like to live your life without any expectation?  How much more relaxed, happy, open-minded, joyful, grateful, present, fulfilled, and content would you feel if you didn’t have any expectation?  How much more creative, free, loving, and accepting would you be if you didn’t need to meet your own self-expectations, and you didn’t need your partner – or anybody else – to be any different than they are now?  Imagine what it would be like to love and accept yourself, your partner, and others unconditionally.  Does that sound like crazy talk to you?  It isn’t. How much less stress, conflict, misunderstandings, disappointment, and resentment would you feel and experience on a daily basis if you had no expectation whatsoever?

Living without expectation is possible

Living without expectation is possible.  Not only is it possible, but it is optimal.  It’s actually the most constructive and empowering way to live your life.  And it’s definitely the most God aligned and conscious way to get what you want in your relationships and life.  So, if you really want to start getting more of what you want in your relationships and life, without the pressure of expectation and negative emotions, then the first thing you’ll want to do is to release the limiting belief that without expectations, you’ll never get what you want.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that we need expectations to get what we want in our relationships and life in general.  We don’t.  That belief is not useful.  It creates a limitation on your personal growth, and your capacity to be more loving, accepting, and compassionate towards yourself and others.  We have the expectation that we should be different than we are, and that if we were, things would be better.  We have the expectation that our partner should be different than they are, and that if they were, we wouldn’t feel the ways we feel.  We have the expectation that, if we, or they were different, we would have a great relationship.  We have the expectation that if we had more money, a bigger house, a cooler/ faster car, a better family, greater health, more of this, less of that, etc., then we would feel better and we wouldn’t have to deal with the adversities of life…  And what do these expectations create?  More stress, more anxiety, fears around not having enough, fears of losing what we have, fears of not getting what we want, strained relationships, disappointment, anger, resentment, feelings of being victimized, and all of the violence and pain that we impose on ourselves and others.   The paradigm of expectations is broken.  We don’t need expectations to get what we truly want.  What we most urgently need is conscious wisdom, discernment, patience, attention, intention, dedication, gratitude, perseverance, tolerance, compassion, understanding, intuition, love, kindness, and faith.

None of the expectations that we’ve inherited from parents, siblings, relatives, friends, teachers, co-workers, politicians, leaders, or society are ever going to make our lives better.  They only make things more difficult.  We don’t need expectations in order to make the changes we want to make in our relationships and life.  We don’t need expectations to navigate our lives and get results.  Expectations – a mental construct created by man – are designed to supposedly control outcomes – i.e. to make sure that we get exactly what we want.  Supposedly, if I create an expectation that something should or shouldn’t happen, then I can enforce it, and thus avoid the pain I project I might feel if what I want to happen doesn’t happen, or what I don’t want to happen does happen.  We’ve got this all mixed up.  Our pain, and our aversion to feeling pain, creates this dynamics of wanting to control outcomes.  Of course, none of this helps.  It only makes things worse.

What if you could actually get something much greater than what you believe you need in your relationships and life by releasing your expectations?  What if freeing yourself from all expectations in your relationships brought about a deeper connection, unconditional love, acceptance, the capacity to understand and forgive yourself and others more easily, and feelings of deep fulfillment and contentment?  What if releasing your expectations of yourself lead to greater joy, inner peace, fulfillment, and the capacity to focus intently, and thus accelerate towards all your intentions and goals?  Releasing all expectations of yourself , your partner, and anyone you are in relationship with will do that.  It will ultimately lead to more love, joy, happiness, connection, fulfillment, and exponential growth in all your relationships.

Expectations tend to make us overtly focused on specific results to the detriment of being aware, conscious, wise, discerning, non-judgmental, loving, and compassionate towards ourselves and others.  Expectations thus diminish our capacity to positively affect our circumstances and get more of what we want in our relationships and life.  Expectations also lead to judgment, disappointment, criticism, punishment, abandonment, anger, resentment, sadness, despair, depression, and sometimes even hatred – just to name a few.  Expectations ultimately undermine the quality of our results, our relationships, our health, and our lives.

You don’t need expectations to get more of what you want in your relationships and life.  You don’t need to judge, pressure, or punish yourself, your partner, or anybody else, in order to achieve your relationship and life goals. All you really need in order to accomplish your goals is self-awareness, intuition, intention, focus, determination, guidance, motivation, perseverance, and faith.  Your intentions for yourself, your partner, your relationship, and your life matter.  Your relationship and life goals are important.  You don’t need the pressure and stress of expectations to achieve them.  This realization alone, and working towards continuously refining the quality of your intentions so that you can achieve your goals in your relationships and life, supersedes any and all expectations.

Learn to release all expectations

By learning how to release any and all expectations you may have had in the past, continuously focusing on how you are always doing your best, continuing to enhance your process over time, and refining your intentions, you can transform your relationships into the relationships you’ve always wanted, and support each other and the people in your life lovingly, as you all move sovereignly towards your personal and mutual goals.  It can be done.  If that’s something that you want to achieve, we’re here to help.  You can find out more about our services, and how we can support you in releasing your expectations and achieving the intentions and goals that matter to you most here: Services