If you feel victimized in any way by life, your relationships, or people in general, you may tend to struggle with a lot of negative thoughts and emotions.  In this article, we’ll explore how you can step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood.

You always have the choice to step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood

No matter how angry, resentful, dishonest, blaming, addicted, self centered, or unsupportive your partner – and people in your life – have been, you are not a victim!  The process of experiencing ourselves as victims in any situation – or relationship – derives from a misunderstanding.  This misunderstanding that we are victims is mainly a result of co-dependency in our relationships.  This co-dependency is a by-product of our fear of abandonment and death.  Because of our fear of abandonment by others, we struggle to make conscious, wise, and discerning choices that will ultimately allow us to live the life that we choose and want.  No matter how you have felt, and how things have unfolded for you in the past, you are not a victim.  You have personal power and the capacity to influence any situation – or relationship – that you are in, if you choose to.  No matter how someone else acts or reacts, you always have a choice as to how you respond to the situation.  You are never a victim, even when someone is deliberately trying to victimize you.  You always have the choice to step into your personal power and to free yourself from victimhood.

When you step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood, you exit the reactive cycle of pain

If instead, you look for ways in which your relationship is not working, you’re not appreciated, you’re not loved, you’re not good enough, you can’t change what’s happening to you, you lack something, or your partner does not truly care or love you, you’re a victim to your partner, your boss, your teens, angry people on the highway, you will find them.  And when you find them, you will feel victimized and disempowered.  When that happens, you get pulled into resonating into the same victimhood that the people you feel victimized by are stuck in.  If they didn’t feel victimized, they wouldn’t feel and act angry, resentful, judgmental, or in pain, and react to their pain in ways that victimize others.  So, if we’re all caught up victimizing ourselves, and reacting to our victimhood, by either perpetrating on each other, or rescuing each other from our personal pain, how is that helping us resolve the pain that is feeding our victimhood?  And, how do we get out of that reactive cycle to pain?

You always have power and influence over yourself, your partner, your relationships, and your life

You have free will.  You are never a victim to any situation, relationship. person, or circumstance.  Even, if through your fears of abandonment and co-dependency, you’ve imagined and interpreted yourself to be one. No matter what’s going on in your relationship, at work, with your health, in your process of achieving abundance and prosperity, if you choose to step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood, you will start getting different results, better results in your relationships and life.  It doesn’t matter how things have unfolded up until now, and the perspective you have looked at yourself, others, and your life through, you are not powerless to effect change and influence what happens next.  You always have power and influence over yourself, your partner, your relationships, and your life.

When you don’t step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood, you become a perpetrator too

When you resonate with, and react from, your fears of abandonment and death, you relinquish that power.  When you don’t step into your personal power, you feel victimized, disempowered, misunderstood, confused, lost, stuck, and unable to make conscious, wise, and discerning choices that will enable you to get better results in your relationships and life.  When we subconsciously enter into victim dynamics and give up our personal power, we start blaming, judging, resenting, hating, punishing, reacting, and moving away from our true intentions and goals for our relationships and life.  From being a victim, we now become a perpetrator. By becoming a perpetrator, we add to the negative dynamics in our relationships and filling our personal and relationship buckets with memories of pain and hurt.  When this happens, we then start feeling bad about who we’ve become.  We may even feel like we don’t know who we are anymore.  We may even believe that others bring out the worst version of ourselves.  We may feel angry, resentful, blaming, vengeful, vindictive, hateful, all the while judging ourselves for the ways in which we feel.  When this happens, we start disconnecting from the love that we usually feel and experience when we are not triggered in our fears.  As we disconnect from the core of our being, and the pure love that resides there, it becomes challenging for us to respond from love in the midst of all the pain and conflict we feel.

Only you can step into your personal power and resolve your emotional pain

How many times have you found yourself getting pulled into negativity as a result of someone else’s pain reaction?  How far down the spiral of negativity did you go?  And how is your spiral of negativity any different than the one you feel victimized by?  It’s no different.  We are all one.  We all have thoughts.  We all have feelings.  We all have emotions.  We all have fears, beliefs, expectations, and judgments that prevent us from responding to any situation from a place of unconditional love and acceptance.  It doesn’t matter what someone else thinks, says, feels, or how they choose to react to their pain.  We’re all on the same boat.  And everyone of us is always doing their best from their level of consciousness and understanding, even if that doesn’t look like it to us.  We are never victims.  We are only experiencing ourselves as victims because of our co-dependency in relationships.  You can step into your personal power today and change how you react to your pain.  In this way, you become empowered to resolve your pain and co-dependency.  No one else can take your pain away, and resolve it for you, no matter how much they love you and care about it.  Only you can.

Only you can choose to take accountability for your pain and release victimhood

Whether you’ve felt victimized for a day, or a lifetime, you can start changing how you feel about it today.  Whether you’ve felt victimized by your partner or in all your relationships you can start changing how you feel about it today.  In the present moment, we have the opportunity to heal the past, the present, and the future, simply by releasing victimhood.  By taking accountability for your pain and releasing the need to blame anything or anyone for the way you feel, you can transcend any tendency to feel victimized in your relationships and life forever.  That’s stepping into your personal power and effecting change in your life where you want it.  No one can do that for you.  Only you can.

When you step into your personal power and release victimhood, you have more and better choices

When you start taking accountability for your pain, you have the opportunity to truly resolve it – at the root.  You no longer seek to distract from it, or require that someone else takes it away.  It can’t be done.  When you step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood, you are presented with new options that you may not have perceived existed before.  Options that will truly and permanently resolve your pain. How could you possibly become aware of these options when you felt victimized and disempowered?  You couldn’t.  When you step into your personal power, you become more calm, more relaxed, more at peace, more joyful, more hopeful, and less co-dependent on anybody else’s behavior for your personal state of well-being.  In this self-sovereign state, ‘right’ action comes to you, easily, almost effortlessly.  You experience the benefits of being in alignment with your soul’s intentions and your personal goals.  You feel good about yourself, about your intentions, about the direction that you are taking in your relationships and life.  You are no longer victimized.  You are no longer a victim.  You are empowered.  You never have to blame again, not even yourself, for anything that happens that wasn’t planned.  You realize that everything that happens happens for a reason, and you embrace it.  When you step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood, you start healing yourself and all your relationships.  You have more energy for achieving your relationship and life goals.  You start taking constructive action towards the resolution of accumulated misunderstandings, pain, and conflicts in your relationships and life.  And you quickly accelerate towards all your intentions and goals.

Are you ready to step into your personal power and free yourself from victimhood?  You can.

Does that sound like something you’d like to achieve?  Are you looking to permanently resolve your pain, step into your personal power, and free yourself from victimhood?  If you are, we’re here to help you and offer solutions that will empower you to take constructive action that will bring about the results that you want in your relationships and life.  Don’t stay stuck feeling victimized, you have personal power over your relationships and life, and what happens next.  For more information, check out our services here: Services