Conflict Management

Make a list of all conflicts that have occurred between you and your partner Recall each conflict exactly as it unfolded For each conflict, remember the pain that you felt and identify the pain your partner felt Identify the individual fears that were driving the pain in you and in your partner Why is it…

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Expressing Feelings Productively

How do you usually share your negative feelings and emotions with your partner? What results have you gotten from sharing your negative feelings and emotions with your partner in this way?  Has it helped you feel better?  How?  How not? What are the main fears that drive you to share your negative feelings with your…

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Self Assessment on Male and Female Roles and Habits

What are the roles and expectations you believe you need to fill as a man/ woman? What are the roles and expectations you believe you need to fill as a husband-boyfriend/ wife-girlfriend? What are the roles and expectations you believe you need to fill as a father/ mother (if you have children)? What about the roles…

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Dualistic Language

Here’s a non exhaustive list of disempowering, dualistic, oversimplified language and words to start paying attention to and to stop using over time as you release the underlying fears, beliefs, judgments, and expectations that lead us to use them in the first place: Always/ Never/ Forever Everything/ Nothing All/ None Should/ Shouldn’t Have to / Must/…

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Self Assessment on Conscious Listening

What are the main fears that diminish your capacity to listen to your partner? What kind of fear projections are going through your mind when you have conversations with your partner? How do you think these fear projections are affecting your capacity to truly listen to your partner? How much better would you be able…

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Self Assessment on Forgiveness

What are things in your relationship that keep coming up? Why haven’t you cleared them? What are the fears preventing you from forgiving completely? What are things in your relationship that you haven’t been able to forgive yet? Why haven’t you forgiven your partner or yourself for this? What are the fears preventing from completely…

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Self Assessment on Collective Consciousness

Define the collective consciousness and what it’s made of. Why do we resonate with the collective consciousness and how? Are you aware of the influence of the collective consciousness on your fears, beliefs, expectations, and judgments? Trace back your top 5 fears, beliefs, expectations and judgments to the collective consciousness. Did the influence come from…

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Self Assessment on Reaction to Self Awareness

Map out your resistance to any fear, belief, expectation, or judgment, i.e. every time you uncover something in you that triggers your fear and leads to negative thoughts and emotions and you dismiss it, work backwards to uncover the fear or belief that is creating this resistance. Anytime you find yourself resisting the process of releasing…

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