Posts by Dexter Dorer
Why it’s not optimally useful to say I was wrong or bad when apologizing
It can be tempting to say, “I was wrong”, when apologizing. We do this with the hopes of resolving the conflict between us and someone we love. We hope that it will help them see that we are truly sorry and want to ‘fix’ things. On the flip side, when someone does something that we…
Read MoreWhat to expect from a private session
Every session is different and unique to the client and what they would like help with. That said, below, we’ll offer you an idea of how a session might unfold. In a private session with me or my wife, you might begin by expressing what you’d like help with, any specific ways in which you’d…
Read MoreGuiding Principles Of Our Work
Spiritual counseling varies from provider to provider. Some teach according to a specific religion or healing modality. Others integrate a more holistic view of spirituality and the divine, integrating information from many different cultures and healing modalities, and also include energy healing and psychic work. The spiritual coach you choose, their personal level of spiritual…
Read MoreWhy One on One Facilitation Is Vital
Today’s social, political, and economic environment is quite complex and rapidly changing. Advancements in technology, the internet, and changing social norms are creating an unprecedented rate of change and even more complexity. With almost half of marriages ending in divorce – relationships are feeling this pressure. With the amount of stress and pressure an individual…
Read MoreLife Is Like A Rock Tumbler
Life is like a rock tumbler. In this metaphor, each one of us is a rock. When we get in the rock tumbler, we’re rough, sharp, and edgy. As the rock tumbler begins to spin, we start bumping into each other over and over. As this happens, we often feel pain, react to the pain,…
Read MoreAccountability Compared To Responsibility
There’s a big difference between accountability and responsibility. We recommend accountability as the more conscious, wise, loving, and effective process for individuals and groups to grow, learn, and evolve. Accountability is a non-judgmental and non-biased process of assessment, evaluation, and reflection and can lead to gaining awareness, clarity, and understanding. It is productive because it…
Read MoreWhy shift your relationship to conflict and remain calm
All of us have been conditioned to see conflict as a bad thing, and most people do see it that way. They also assume that if there is a lot of conflict in their relationship, that their relationship is bad, or is a problem. As long as we see conflict as a bad thing, we…
Read MoreWhy relationship conflict is increasing today and how modern society and technology are adding pressure
Many of us might want our relationship to be ‘good’, and are having difficult reducing conflict and getting along in the ways we feel we should be. If we aren’t aware of all the stressful influences that relationships across the planet are facing at this time, it can be difficult to completely understand why this…
Read MoreWhy our partner might feel like they don’t want to be around us (or vice versa)
Have you ever heard the words: “I don’t want to be around you” “I don’t feel good when I’m around you” “I just want to be alone” “Your energy is bad” “I don’t feel good when I’m around you” If so, then during these times you’ve probably felt, at the very least, a bit hurt,…
Read MoreWhy we get angry over small things in relationships
In the above video, we discuss those situations in relationships where either we or our partner get intensely angry, hateful, judgmental, or even repulsed about something that seems small or insignificant and how to handle such situations. For example, our partner might get very upset when we are: happy and talking about life eating (maybe…
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